Tuesday, July 5, 2016

The Boy They Call Chucky...

I just watched a documentary on youtube called, "The Boy They Call Chucky". It's a sad, yet informative glimpse into the lives of an English family desperate to find help not only for their son but their whole family.

After I watched the documentary, I made a big mistake. I started reading the comments. Take my advice,

DO NOT READ COMMENTS ON CONTROVERSIAL ISSUES. This only leads to upset and the need to set the record straight for the armchair psychiatrists. So, here's my response to one particularly nasty person who put all the blame on the mother, and said that it was her that taught this child to be 'Chucky'. I had to respond. Maybe I am wrong in my beliefs, but as I state, I do have first hand experience. Please watch the documentary and tell me what you think.



The Boy They Call Chucky


With all due respect ******, (name removed) do you, or have you lived with a child like this? I do.
I adopted a child with behaviors exactly like this ( not knowingly though) when the child was 6 years old. (Please don't come at me with 'the child probably suffered abuse in the foster homes'.) The violence and rages cannot be predicted, as triggers can be as simple as saying 'good morning'. Some people are fortunate and triggers can be identified, most cannot. The reactionary behaviors of the mother, are in fact, completely 'normal' for the situation she is living in. I'll bet that when Christian was born these parents weren't anything like this documentary shows today. They were probably very loving, kind, forgiving, doting, and happy.

12 years of abuse (Did you know that children can be the abusers WITHOUT being taught how to be?) can turn a saint into a demon. Speaking now as a mother diagnosed with Acute Traumatic Stress Disorder. (You have to be a minimum of 6 months out of the traumatic situation for it to be Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.) The professionals in this documentary are like you and basing their advice and opinions off 14 minutes of these peoples lives. (14 minutes figuratively.) This documentary kept saying 'looking for a cure'. There's no such thing. There is management and treatment. Dyslexia, ADHD, do not, in and of themselves, make for a confrontational and violent personality. They can contribute to it, but aren't the sole cause. There is something much more at play in this child's brain than just a couple of disorders. It goes much deeper than that. Yes I do know what I'm talking about, again, as I said, I have a child exactly like this little boy.
I also have another child the same age as this boy (don't forget hormones are most likely coming into play now too) who also has ADHD, and Dyslexia as well as other diagnoses, yet his actions aren't outbursts but he does hurt people. Mostly our family, too. My child of 12 is much more calculated, manipulative, and an amazing actor so that he can make even the most intelligent person believe he is never at fault. A lie detector wouldn't pick up on him lying. What's my point? Don't judge these people based on one very short glimpse (not even a look) into their lives. It's very incomplete and makes them all look like monsters when I would bet my life they are simply worn out and out of places to turn for help. Contrary to popular belief, there isn't an answer for every question. Have a good day.

11 comments:

  1. I just watched the documentary and found your site by trying to find out what happened to the family. I felt so sorry for all involved and I thought the mother was incredible.

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  2. Thank you for your comment. I haven't been able to find out what the family is doing now either. If I do I will post it to my blog.
    Thanks again for checking me out. Kelly

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    1. Chris is a friend of mine and is a great guy. I didn't know him at this point in his life and can hardly believe it's the same guy. He has children of his own now.

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    2. James, thank you so much for updating on Chris. I'm so happy that things settled down for him and is having a great life. Please send my love and gratitude for allowing his story to be told. Please tell him that his story gave (and continues too) hope to others.
      God Bless and have a great day!

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  3. Do you think that the family will do an update? By the way I support your idea about how not to judge them!! Keep up the good work!

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    1. Thank you for reading and commenting, Littlefriend. I am hoping to see an update, but as of yet I haven't found anything. I wish I knew this family, alas, I don't. Have a great day! Kelly

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    2. Littlefriend, there is an update. He is doing well and has children of his own now. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

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  4. Thank you! Until you survive something like this you will never understand.
    My husband and I adopted a 6 year old little boy; I will refer to him as JJ. JJ was a very angry child and we both understood that he would need love and support. He turned that anger towards us.
    JJ is very intelligent. He is also destructive, deceptive, cruel and an adept manipulator. He could lie so easily. Truths, lies, it didn’t matter as long as he got what he wanted and we leave him alone.
    Taking his cue from “Slim Shady” he started taking other children’s horror stories and portraying them as his own. Unfortunately we didn’t find out about this until too late.
    We started to be treated differently by neighbors, teachers and other students, including my brothers
    JJ had always had violent outbursts that we attributed to “abandonment issues”, then he attacked my husband viciously enough that I had to call the police. We no longer felt safe in our home.
    JJ went to live with his biological paternal grandmother and the stories started coming in. This almost destroyed me.
    I haven’t been able to get past my families lack of loyalty and support. We still don’t associate with each other.
    I thank God everyday for the support of my dad and my coworkers. I don’t want to think of how I would have fared without them.
    My heart is and will always be broken.

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  5. We have been through this... both of us diagnosed PTSD... Good people, nice home, mentors to hundreds of children over the years and then adopted chucky... at 17 I told him "lunch is ready" and this triggered his fourth attempt on my life and almost killed me. When he threatened to kill my wife, he was out. tens of thousands in treatment made no difference... you cannot make a difference you are being solid humans will be left broken.

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  6. I feel pity for the daughter. Her parents chose her brother over her. When she left, her father said 'it wasn't the right time' and he 'hoped she had helped them'.
    I feel really sorry for her and i hope she found a home. A real home.

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  7. The comments did not seem to be from any firsthand experience with a raging child. I too felt the parents were worn down to their barely surviving state. I worked with people of all ages who were developmentally disabled and I was often assigned the violent clients. Social media has made me not care much for people anymore. I miss the 70s,

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