Sunday, February 26, 2012

Well Once Again It's Been Awhile....

And I'm going to start off with moaning.  Sorry about that.

I'm hurt.  I have told you about my Mum getting married last year and that we adopted new family members when that happened.  Well, I did anyway.  It seems that love wasn't truly returned.  Two of those members are moving across the country in a few days back to her family.  Can't blame her there.  I would want to too.  But what did hurt me was there was a combined family birthday/going away dinner last night and my family wasn't invited.  That made me sad.  Then tonight there is supposed to be a girls night out at the movies and my mum invited me, but the two other ladies have made no mention of it.  Petty?  Yes I know.  It just hurts because I was the one who's moving's first real friend here and I'm going to miss her like mad.  I guess my big thing is I'm tired of being the one who makes all the effort.  OK rant over.  Ladies if you're reading this I mean you no disrespect I just had to get my feelings out.  I love you both to death!

So on to other stuff.  My boys.  Wow!  They are growing in leaps and bounds.  My little one hit a new milestone the other day.  He's 3 years and 9 months old and finally said his name!  I burst into tears of joy and hugged him so tight he was wriggling and saying "Mama can't breave!"  So I let go.

My 8 year old is doing so well in school that we aren't even hearing from them!  He's enjoying himself and is excited about learning again!  He finally got his recorder for music class and is excited about learning to play it.  The amazing thing is he isn't screechy on it.  We don't mind listening to hot cross buns over and over and over again.   Unfortunately he doesn't have his mummy's talent for music.  It appears my boy is tone deaf.  The three different notes all sound exactly the same.  Oh well, I'm so proud of him for continuing to try.  He loves music and will not give up.  That in and of itself is pure talent to me.

So hubby and I went to a matching event a couple of weeks ago, along with some friends of ours who are also adopting.  What a lovely day.  Unfortunately there weren't any children that matched what we were looking for but we're praying for our friends to get a match from the event.  They will be first time parents and I can't wait for them to get their children.  They are going to make awesome parents.  How do I know?  MY kids love them. So along with the other 29 families that were in attendance I hope all 9 sibling groups get matched and find their forever families.  That would bring me such great joy.

Then we have our homestudy update coming very shortly.  Can't wait.  We get to spend some time with our 2 workers, getting to know eachother.  That will be a benefit to everyone involved.  It's easier for workers to help find your children when they "know" the families they are working with.  These 2 lovely ladies have been so swamped with work they just haven't had the opportunity to come to get to know us.  Now they will.  We're very excited about it.  Once this happens we'll be able to move forward again.

Anyway, that's about it for now.

Hope you all have a fantastic day.  God Bless you all!

Monday, February 6, 2012

It's Monday, Monday, Monday...

My favorite day of the week!  Sorry I've been away from here for a month, I've been busy.

I've been doing a couple of online courses.  One to help us further our adoption plans and one to help me remember how to be an effective support group facilitator and one to one parent volunteer.

The first course is all about caring for first nations children and how to incorporate their history.  Whew!  I thought I knew about our Aboriginal's history.  Boy was I mistaken!  In order for my husband and I to even consider adopting Aboriginal children we had a lot to learn.  I'd like to say that now that I'm finished the course (most aren't finished but I got a lot of help in keeping my little one occupied while I worked) I know everything our Aboriginal people went through for generations, but no, I can't and as weird as this sounds, I'm thankful.  I never want to stop learning.  I believe that a day without learning is a wasted day.

So, I've completed this course and learned so much.  I cried, I giggled, I cried and we bought stock in Kleenex.  What an emotional experience.  Did you know that the last residential school closed in 1996?! This course also taught me that Christopher Columbus wasn't just a discovery hero.  He took as many of the aboriginals that he could and sold them into slavery!  Back in 1492!  So all of the atrocities that happened didn't just start with the Euro-Caucasians in the 1700's.  If you're considering adoption, ask your adoption social worker to get you into this course.  You'll be amazed at what you learn.

The other course I'm taking is just 2 nights.  It's just a refresher on how to be effective running a support group for pre and post adoptive families.  Most of us are also one to one parent peer support.  It's wonderful being able to talk to others in my position throughout the province.  We can finally have others that understand what we do and what we go through.  It's been fun and exciting and so filled with information and ideas I hadn't considered.  Thank you to our facilitator for this course.

Then there's my family.  My wonderful, beautiful family.  Things have been truly wonderful for the last month.  My oldest is getting some of his issues under control, my little one has started showing interest in learning how to count, how to read, dancing and singing his favorite shows theme songs, it's been wonderful!

Then we have today.  IT'S MONDAY!  My favorite day of the week.  The fog is lifting which means it's going to be beautiful and sunny!

Have a great day all, and God Bless you!